The decision has been made, you’re getting a separation, so now what?
You’re both confused, you’re both anxious and both seeking a sense of direction, but you have no idea of what you have to work with in order to move forward again. This phase isn’t comfortable, but it is normal.
When you start committing to what you want, what you don’t want or what you won’t go after, without being in the “know” about what that may mean for you in the long run, then you could already be setting yourselves up for tough negotiations. How can you know about everything in the beginning? Your world just took a turn from one that you’re familiar with to one that’s totally foreign to you.
Holding your soon to be ex spouse to something that was said before being educated, is simply UNFAIR. When you don’t know what you don’t know, then you can’t possibly make an informed decision.
Be reasonable and understand that you BOTH need to understand the WHAT’S, The HOW’s and the “WHY’s before coming to an agreement on anything.